Perspective is a powerful force. Not many of us realize it or have stopped to think about. We toss the word around like burnt popcorn seeds. Most times it’s a mask for saying we don’t agree.
To me, perspective shapes the world we live in. It helps define who we are. It influences how we judge other people and the situations we find ourselves in.
Too often we are trapped by our perspectives and can’t see the bars and locks. They become roots. They become beliefs. Or we believe they are our beliefs.
Unfortunately, changing a belief, particularly one that we have held onto for years or more, is immensely difficult. So onerous, it’s impossible. So we believe. Or is that just an ingrained perspective?
It is possible to alter our perceptions, perspectives and beliefs. It’s not easy but possible.
If the perspective you have is that mental illness is an indefatigable, unending shadow that will always loom over and control your life, your perspective is a telescope and you’re looking in the wrong end. You should, if you can, seriously ask and consider is this reality. More importantly, is this the reality in which you want to exist.
Perspective molds our perception. All too quickly and silently, perception becomes reality. It is self-perpetuating. If this is so, we should make every effort to change all of this.
Perspective can be seen as a story, a myth. Not necessarily the truth.
If we see ourselves as people who struggle along, barely managing illness or not managing it all, this is truth. We may view ourselves through the perspective of being in control rather than being controlled.
Certainly, many people do not have the luxury of choosing between these two perspectives (or a third or fourth). They are simply overpowered by their illness. I have been in this state and it becomes hard to remember why you are breathing let alone attempt to understand how you see yourself stunts recovery. No amount of positive thinking can change this reality.
Many of us, further down a healthy path, can change our perspective. We have the ability to make this important shift.
Perspective is ultimately subjective. No one can state this or another perspective is absolute and right. But as people, if we can pull ourselves back for a moment, we can gain a more objective vision of that subjectivity.
Perspective is much more than the idea of seeing the glass half full or half empty—pessimist or optimist.
These trite clichés are a meaningless short hand to draw beliefs in the broadest strokes possible. They do not arise from deep and real self-examination; they simply fall from our lips with the gracelessness of tumbling down a flight of stairs.
Can anyone honestly be glass-half-full person all the time? Can you be a perennial optimist no matter the circumstances befall you?
Absolutely not. It’s a delusional to think so and a superficial conception of the human condition.
Perspective, viewed in the light that I am trying to shine, is much more cogent and demanding. We must be truly introspective, look not at our facades but at the structures these facades hide. It’s the foundation of our beliefs about ourselves and the world that needs to be placed in the crucible of examination.
As I mentioned, perspective is subjective. It’s a creation. It becomes intertwined with our self-esteem and worth, too often with our lack of self-esteem and worth.
The unfortunate truth is many of us living with mental illness accept the perspectives defined by outsiders, by the world with its many biases and misunderstanding.
Changing our perceptions or perspectives is about self-awareness.
Perspective is about power, a power that we can claim—the power to define yourself, the power to separate myth from reality and the power to take charge. Changing perspective, positively, will lead toward the reclaiming control. Turn away from our automatic vision of ourselves we begin to see a different, more honest view of who and what we are. Negative perspectives become positive.
Our perspectives are what we see when we think we are facing reality. It’s time for us to blink and blink away at our perspectives. Question them. It’s time we put our backs into the hard work of creating a self-perspective that is positive and encouraging.
Even if we are the only ones who recognize our changed perspective, this is no reason to stop. Altering negative perspectives to positive is selfish. It can only be accomplished alone, though psychologists and counsellors can help, and it is accomplished only for ourselves.
Perspective. Change. Ourselves. Better health. That is what matters.
And who else should we be concerned about.
peace and love, Terry